Wednesday 18 September 2024

Britishcore

I'd never heard of BRITISHCORE until, like many people, this eye-poppingly shit screed hit the world this morning. Anyway, bored as I was with everything else, I had a go myself.


1: Buying a Big Issue, revelling in some kind of inner smugness for doing so and drowning out the voice in your head that says “Fucking hell, the Big Issue just turns homeless people into advertising space” before heading back to the former council house your parents left you.

2: Tutting and aahing at the lifestyle choices of the poor before getting obliterated every night on expensive malt.

3: Knocking one out watching Rachel Riley.

4. Having a mate called Rapey and never having questioned this.

5. Getting incensed at Just Stop Oil and the like and then weeping watching an Attenborough clip.

6. Spending double the amount of money on a holiday to Cornwall as on a holiday to Portugal.

7. Watching and enjoying Saturday Kitchen.

8. Brushing cocaine off your BBC lanyard.

9. Actually knowing what the fuck half the shit Slater or Ottolenghi are on about actually is and where the best place to locally source it is.

10. Still banging on about Britpop.

11. Going to a local independent cinema to watch a four hour Chilean drama purely to say you’re really into South American cinema now.

12. Using the term holibobs.

13. Fancying Keir Starmer and writing about it.

14. Thinking you are friends with the cleaner/au pair.

15. Referring to a holiday in the UK as a “staycation”.

16. Commandeering a significant area of your local park with a gazebo and a barbecue and some sports equipment so you can get pissed with your friends and their equally awful kids

17. Misrepresenting your parents occupation for working class credentials.

18. Raving about the new Jamie.

19. Being excited about the new Gavin and Stacey.

20. Messaging the WhatsApp group about the new John Lewis advert.

21. Parkrun.

22. Having a collection of anything taking up a room in your home.

23. Giving your kid a working class name when they’re never going to have been dismayed to find some prick has filled their basket with yellow stickered food despite having a BMW in the car park outside.

24. Getting emotionally aroused by the Red Arrows.

25. Saying stuff like “Of course, the real Glastonbury isn’t the bands, it’s the little stages, the secret nooks and crannies.”

26. Sneering at people for buying eight quid jeans when that’s all they can fucking afford, you reprehensible wankpigs.

27. Pretending you’ve never been to “a Spoons”.

28. Enjoying that Alan Carr show where he gets to restore Tuscan villas for peanuts but then tutting at Bradley Walsh dragging his chirpy mug round the States on ITV.

29. Saying you live in West London when you live in Harrow.

30. Saying “ooh I’m awful till I’ve had my coffee” in the morning as some sort of excuse for being a prick first thing every fucking day.

31. Liking Ant and Dec.

32. Having an opinion on Harry and Meghan.

33. Giving your kids a Christmas box or whatever it is when you give your kids a load of stuff on Christmas Eve too because you’re an idiot.

34. Exaggerating some sort of working class accent whenever you enter anywhere you suspect that working class people are socialising.

35. Saying things like “Yes bruv” and “Ya feel me” when you’re from Chipping fucking Sodbury.

36. Liking Led by Donkeys and sharing their posts, thinking you’re contributing to the fall of evil.

37. Thinking you could handle yourself in a fight because you’ve watched Peaky Blinders.

38. Ringing your genuinely hard up mates to complain about your financial plight because you can’t afford Carfest this year.

39. Those stupid massive fucking coats.

40. Pretending you still refer to Starburst as Opal Fruits.

41. Driving everywhere.

42. Enjoying Clarkson’s Farm.

43. Still going on about only getting a B in A-level French thirty years later.

44. Using the phrase “I know, right”.

45. Texting Six Music and saying things like “Wooh, Love a bit of Libertines. Absolute scenes here in the conservatory! Whoop!”

46. Stop photographing EVERYTHING.

47. Saying “its coming home mate” to everyone because England just got a last minute winner against Laos. And also because you know nothing about football.

48. Having the Zoopla app.

49. Saying “LOL” out loud.

50. Reading those “10 ideal Croatian hotspots” type articles in the Sunday papers and ticking off the ones you’ve been to already.

51. Having a massive fridge covered in those stupid magnetic words.

52. Convincing yourself your kid’s got ADD because they were late back from hockey practise.

53. Resenting the dog you got during lockdown.

54. Pretending you never really liked Russell Brand.

55. Having any kind of picture in your kitchen that refers to “Gin O’Clock”.

56. Getting heavily on board with the latest fashionable food – “pulled pork”, “smashed burgers”, “kicked-the-shit-out-of-kebabs”

57. Getting a tattoo of your children’s names but it’s in some ancient script.

58. High fiving.

59. Having shoes with designated roles like “Work Shoes”, “Party Shoes”, “Funeral Shoes” rather than just one pair of fucking shoes that have somehow got to last till the next paltry pay increase.

60. Banging your saucepan or whatever for NHS staff during the pandemic and then voting contradictory to that performative nonsense at the next election.

61. Being a bit too into Rocky Horror Picture Show.

62. Having a crush on Carol Vorderman.

63. Calling your gap year in the 80s “being unemployed.”

64. Watching The Budget intently.

65. Booking annual leave every year for the day after the Oscars.

66. PELOTON!

67. Wearing a different Christmas jumper every day from December 1.

68. Sticking with Line of Duty even though it was shit after about series 2.

69. Calling Wednesday “hump day” to people for whom, that week, it may well be their Monday.

70. Downton Abbey.

71. Grown adults skateboarding.

72. Football fans who over-intellectualise the game. “Actually, much as I was pleased Atlanta won, I was surprised Klopp fell for the 3-3-1-3 trap, a primitive take on the classic libero system if you ask me ETC ETC ETC FUCKING SHUT UP ITS JUST A GAME.”

73. People with massive cars who believe that somehow the landscape in the advert they first saw said car, a world of wide open empty Continental lanes of smooth perfect tarmac, is just like the crammed suburban bottleneck hell hole they’ve taken delivery of the monster truck with small wheels to.

74. Saying “PARKLIFE” at anything.

75. People who play golf.

76. The Great British Doing Shit You Don’t Have to Do Anymore Because Capitalism/Technology Show, you endlessly middle class fucktards.

77. Wimbledon.

78. The wrap-around-shade-in-the-gelled-up-hair-with-cricket-jumper-draped-around-your-shoulder-whilst-you-walk-around-in-shorts-and-birkenstocks-trying-to-appear-casual-whilst-you-queue-for-your-expensive-fucking-coffee-on-a-Satruday-morning look so beloved of every middle class middle aged prick in the shit seaside town I live in from March to September.

79. Doing shit “ironically”. Yeah we got tired of Dubrovnik so we took the kids to, get this right, fucking PONTINS! Hilares!

80. People who say stuff like “ooh 5 sleeps till Christmas”.

81. BrewDog.

82. Reading the Guardian

83. Taking time off work “for your mental health” and then verbally abusing an underling on your return to work for not doing more in your absence.

84. People in the gym who don’t use the lockers and just take all their shit into the gym despite signs asking them not to because they’re a busy media person and look it doesn’t matter really and the kid on the desk is going to say fuck all because he’s a kid on 8 quid an hour.

85. Endlessly watching your Ring doorbell thing.

86. Using “Best” as an email signature.

87. Not referring to Benedict Cumberbatch as “Benny Cums”.

88. “I mean, yeah, there was Iraq. But Blair did so much good….”

89. “I love Comic Relief!”

90. Calling your pub quiz team “Cunning Stunts”

91. Having an allotment when you’ve covered your entire garden with fucking pebbles.

92. Having zero understanding of being poor.

93. Having zero understanding of being hungry.

94. Having zero understanding of anything past your stupid facile media bullshit world.

95. Banksy.

96. If you’ve got this far, I’m sorry.

97. I mean, I’m as much of a cunt as most people.

98. I’ll probably get pissed tonight. Hungover in my shit job tomorrow, all of this is just the politics of envy.

99. I’d love to have the chance to go ski-ing, I mean I wouldn’t go because I’m accident prone.

100. But imagine it. I don’t even know what apres-ski means but I bet it’s fucking delicious. Am I allowed it with crisps?

 


Monday 12 August 2024

Top of the Premier Pops

Decided to predict the Premier League race by looking at what was number one in the UK charts when their manager was born.

20th place. MAN CITY (Pep Guardiola) – Grandad (Clive Dunn). Clearly those charges are finally going to bite. Clive Dunn cosplaying as a sweet old man to appallingly sentimental slop that was bizarrely written by the same bloke who played that bassline on Walk on the Wild Side. 

19th place. WOLVES (Gary O’Neil) – True (Spandau Ballet). The worst record of the 1980s. If Thatcherism sounded like anything it sounded like this. Sorry Wolves. Tony Hadley with his Yuppie Gaston head, a fucking saxophone solo from hell. It was I’m Not in Love for cunts.

18th place. BRIGHTON (Fabian Hurzeler) – No Limit (2 Unlimited). No no no no no no no no, no no no no, there’s no Premiership.

17th place. ARSENAL (Mikel Arteta) – The Lion Sleeps Tonight (Tight Fit). Fantasy Island was the best pop record of the 1980s. But this shite cover got to the top. Arsenal’s away form will desert them and their fans will beg them to “Win Away “ to the tune of “Wimoweh.” Possibly.

16th place. BRENTFORD (Thomas Frank) – Eye Level (Simon Park Orchestra). The only instrumental in our list. A theme tune more memorable than the show it soundtracked. It’s shit really but it’s better than what’s below it. A season of struggle.

15th place. SOUTHAMPTON (Russell Martin) – Merry Christmas Everyone (Shakin Stevens). Southampton will be the surprise package of the season up until Christmas and then it’ll fall quicker than the reputation of Olympic breakdancing.

14th place. NOTTINGHAM FOREST (Nuno Espirito Santo) – You Wont Find Another Fool Like Me (The New Seekers).. The kind of bland, uneventful stuff that would be a hit if people had power cuts twice a week and only Spam and Mike Yarwood flavour crisps to eat.  Mid table beckons.

13th place. CRYSTAL PALACE (Thomas Glasner) – When Will I See You Again (The Three Degrees). Being the kind of song you recognise the chorus when it comes on but nothing else about it. Like Palace when Zaha comes back.

12th place. FULHAM (Mario Silva) – So You Win Again (Hot Chocolate). The title suggests the Cottagers will pick up a lot of points this season but the singer’s bald so maybe they won’t have much up top.

11th place. LIVERPOOL (Arne Slot) – Three Times a Lady (Commodores). Who doesn’t want to hear this song in a Dutch accent? Who is the Lionel Richie of Liverpool? (Insert predictable hair and tache 1980s joke here). A disappointing season nonetheless.

10th place. IPSWICH TOWN (Kieran McKenna) – Rock Me Amadeus (Falco). Fucking bonkers stuff. All over the place. A one hit wonder though so just like last time they were in the Prem it’ll end in tears in 2025-26.

9th place. BOURNEMOUTH (Andoni Iraola) – Goody Two Shoes (Adam Ant). Everyone likes Bournemouth a bit don’t they? Hard to really dislike them especially now Eddie “Beheaders and Volleys” Howe has gone. Adam Ant’s finest hour and I’ll brook no argument.

8th place MANCHESTER UNITED (Erik Ten Hag) – Love Grows…(Edison Lighthouse). Ten Hag finally gets a tune out of United. This was the song that knocked Rolf Harris off the top of the charts. And for legal reasons I’ll end the tweet there.

7th place. EVERTON (Sean Dyche) – My Sweet Lord (George Harrison). In much the same way that George beat the other Beatles to a solo number one, the Toffees finally finish above Liverpool. There’ll be an expensive legal battle after mind…

6th place. LEICESTER CITY (Steve Cooper) – Walking on the Moon (Police). Steve Cooper has the same initials as Sting Cunt and Stewart Copeland. And Leicester will make giant steps this season…

5th place. SPURS (Ange Postecoglou) – I Got You Babe (Sonny and Cher). Groundhog Day again for Spurs as they miss out on the Champions League places.

4th place. NEWCASTLE UNITED (Eddie Howe) – Name of the Game (ABBA). Abba is short for Arabian Bonesaw Bastards Athletic.

3rd place. WEST HAM UNITED (Julien Lopetegui) – Yellow Submarine/Eleanor Rigby (Beatles). I got nothing here. You can sing Chrysencio Summerville to the tune of Yellow Submarine and Edson Alvarez to Eleanor Rigby if you like though.

2nd place. ASTON VILLA (Unai Emery) – Maggie May (Rod Stewart). Yes I’m biased but Rod was never better and Villa are brilliant now.

1st place. CHELSEA (Enzo Maresca) – Too Much Too Young (Specials). How many young players have Chelsea got? TOO MUCH MATE! (SATIRE!).

Monday 29 July 2024

How to buy a Twix

 

Someone said to write it down. To document it. Get the fucking feeling of your mind, like it was a car and you were taking it for a test drive, a spin. Not that you can fucking drive because well we’ll find out won’t we.

When you were a kid you discovered you didn’t like crowds. You remain terrified of mobs to this day. You don't like gigs or football matches in stadiums. That’s the school thing isn’t it? Those first few days of terror, the absolute crushing sensation that for the first time in your life nothing could protect you or comfort you for a few hours. And you’d lose yourself in books, fiction, encyclopaedias, lists and facts. And you can still reel off terrifying amounts of trivial, pointless shite. And the dates thing. You know where you were at any point of your life pretty much.

Today is July 28th. You know that on this day in 1991, your then girlfriend’s parents came round with the dad’s own mother and she was from Weymouth and she looked like Nana Moon from EastEnders but without any of the kindness, just a little silent ball of rage. On top of the fridge in the kitchen is a double cassette player, a shit black one made by Aiwa and in that player is Shiftwork by The Fall. And it’s very sunny and your heavily pregnant girlfriend is a week late giving birth but you know it’s not going to be tonight. You know when things are going to happen. You sense things. You would be able to smell it.

You know because you think you’re tuned in differently. You smell that stuff they put on kids knees when they fall over in school playgrounds in the moments before someone gets hurt. And you can’t say it out loud because that’s insane, no one has that ability but you do and you keep schtum. Because you’ve learnt to swallow those words, the words that people jump on, like bugs to squash. People like to smash things they don’t instantly understand.

You can’t sleep because you’re always tired. You can’t get things done because you’re always doing something else. A lifetime of incomplete tasks. Easily distracted by your own self. You could buy a hoover, drag it home and be all excited about the hoovering you’re gonna finally do, gonna drag that flat from the jaws of environmental condemnation and save it and save you in the process and you know you mean it but the moment you get in you’ll be wanting to know what happened to Hollywood Beyond because you were humming it on the bus home and you’ll remember that on the 8th August 1986 you bought their big hit, What’s the Colour of Money, from The Studio in Lampeter with some babysitting money you’d earnt earlier in the week from Cass who lived next door. The record was lurid green vinyl and you were unable to talk because you’d had two teeth removed due to yet another complicated orthodontic procedure conducted an hour earlier.

You’ll go on Wikipedia when you get in and the hoover won’t leave it’s box for a fortnight.

Sometimes you can’t wash. Sometimes you can’t do anything but drink. Some days you will have the ability to scrub your flat to within an inch of it’s life but you’ll probably have phoned in sick to do it. It’s like there’s a voice, not quite a conscience, more a kind of deranged interior supervisor saying fucking hell mate you have to do these things otherwise your life will fall apart, and it’s there all day long, it’s saying fucking hell mate why are you typing this shit down, no one will want to read it, and do you really want to share it anyway, who will believe you, you’re fucking losing it mate. But the typing means you don’t have to think about the pain in your foot which is causing you problems all the time and you don’t want to go to the doctors again because you have convinced yourself your doctor has written Time Wasting Hypochondriac down in medical code at the top of your notes so everyone who sees you knows they’ve got five minutes off work.

Memory. Long-term, pointless stuff, I’ve got that down.  I make three times the amount of food and drink that I actually consume. I get on buses and have to remind myself why I’m on it. I get lost in music. I go to pub quizzes because once or twice a week this esoterica blocking up the fire exits of my head becomes useful and someone will ask “which pop song from 1985 was the first number one single to mention the word “record”, I will know it’s You Spin Me Round, Like A Record by Dead or Alive which I will also know was the week Aston Villa lost a League Cup semi-final second leg to Oxford United because of course I fucking do but do I know where my glasses case is? 

Short-term, useful stuff? Fucking useless.

I make very bad, impulsive decisions. I am really bad with money. I have to stop myself from saying appalling, terrible things which I don’t really mean. I cry at everything that I don’t find hysterically funny. I watch films on repeat for days on end because the pattern of it being on means I am able to kill some time before the thing I need to do becomes too late to be done. I make instantaneous emotional connections with film and art and nature and all kinds of things. I can remember ex-girlfriend’s phone numbers from 30 years ago. The smell of their hair, the way they pronounced certain words. I couldn’t tell you either of my kids phone numbers. Some of that is down to technology I am sure.

I have extremely high self-confidence right up until I need it. I have absolutely zero confidence that people mean what they say when they try to boost my extremely low self-confidence. I fall in love very easily and hold grudges forever. I think about stuff way too much that I have absolutely no impact over. I can convince myself that I can see the future and sometimes I really can. I know when I’m being lied to because I am a brilliant liar.

When I complete a routine household or everyday task I feel the most astonishing rush for a nano-second and then I review it and I either conclude that I have forgotten a key component of said task or that I am an idiot for leaving it so long or that I am an idiot for having that rush in the first place. I think I have talent for writing but I hate writing in case no one ever sees it or that if someone does I will know that they are lying when they tell me it’s good.

I am forever awake in the night and sleepy in the day. I am clumsy and struggle to follow instructions to tasks that everyone else finds easy enough to complete. I worry about dying and think about killing myself quite a lot just to get it out of the way. I love my children more than anything and I wrongly suspect that sometimes they don’t love me very much back. I play the lottery. I don't eat sticky food. I have severe problems maintaining eye contact with people. I took my driving test four times and then just gave up. It is my concentration levels I think. I have to work very hard to not crash.

My school reports were unexceptional.

My friends say the following things about me to my face. I am a genius. I am mad. I am the funniest person they have ever known. They worry about me. I am kind. I will find happiness one day. I am loved. I should get tested for something. Maybe I have ADD. I have autism. I am a savant. 

I never believe them though I always look like I do. I am depressed. I am anxious. I say if everyone is neurodivergent then no one is and everyone laughs. 

I have been prescribed various things down the years but nothing works really. I tell myself my mind is too clever for the drugs. It says “I see. You just want me not to worry but we’ve done all right with worrying and catastrophising till now. It’s what’s kept us alive. Fuck you I won’t respond to these drugs.” And so it continues.

If I ring someone and they don’t answer, I will tell myself that they have looked at their phone and decided they can’t be arsed. Or if it is one of my children I tell myself that they are dead. I know that this is not healthy or rational. I did CBT. My mind did it again every time. Where’s the evidence for this negative thought you are having? And my mind will say I don’t need evidence, I fucking know sunshine. And then I will use some other crutch for confidence, it might be a can of lager or some cans of lager or some chocolate or I might sit down at my laptop and type.

I worry that I am just an egomaniac really and there’s nothing wrong with me at all. I second guess the reasons behind my every action and have to work very hard to dissuade myself from the notion that I am a narcissist or a Svengali or something else manipulative. 

Beside me, on this cluttered table, sits a cup of lukewarm coffee. It has a dinosaur on it and the caption “Tea-rex” and instantly on reading this I remember the word Archaeopteryx being the first entry in a little Ladybird book of dinosaurs my mum bought me when I was six. I was reading it in the playground on an overcast afternoon quite happy not to be part of the mob playing War or Kiss chase or whatever. I am sat on this weird little brick ridge reading a book next to a girl called Joanne Wormald who is reading over my shoulder. I can't remember her face but she had dark blonde hair and always got more stars than me in her school work.

Right now it is not 1977 anymore. I am not sure if I had breakfast today though I definitely went to Tesco this morning because I wanted to buy anti-fungal cream for my toenail. I did not buy it because I couldn’t be arsed to make a list with one thing on it and subsequently I forgot and came home with a Twix and some vanilla milkshake instead. 

Outside, the sky is blue and a child is screaming and splashing in a paddling pool almost the same colour as the sky. I have not had an alcoholic drink in 73 days.

 

Thursday 4 July 2024

Wait and See

So here we are then. Election day. And unless every psephologist in Britain has been doing heroic quantities of glue since Christmas, it looks like the Tories are finally fucking off. Tonight's election results will be an asteroid in the bollocks of the current government. I try to be excited about it and I almost am but something is missing.

It’s more than knowing that many Tory MPs lack the backbone to see what their electorate think of them now they’ve about to be thrown out of office. There should still be plenty of schadenfreude tonight despite the ranks of cowards quitting the stage before the end of the play. Not fit to govern, just frit, as their once beloved leader bellowed in the Commons.

So why my lack of excitement? 

It’s because I keep being told “wait and see.” As if those millions waiting to be housed, of children needed to be fed, of sick treated by the NHS have the time and energy for the exercise of such patience. 

I fear that the grownups have not so much entered the room, more that another set of self-interested bastards have. And when “wait and see” stops playing on the political jukebox, the old classic “we’ve inherited a mess” will get an airing. 

Your NHS will not be saved. Not with Big Wes and his American friends in charge. Your kids will still go to school in dangerously broken buildings. The rivers will still flow with human shit. The life expectancy of our most vulnerable will continue to decline. Homelessness will rise further still.

That our next PM has spent more time being questioned about how JK Rowling might vote than say his position on Gaza or climate change or lifting the two child cap on benefits suggests that although the money is there (and it is always there), the political will isn’t (and it never is). 

All this, in the sixth richest country in the world. People need hope. And they need change. The former they may have today. The latter won’t be coming tomorrow, no matter what Sir Keir tells you. Or any time soon. Because if genuine change was on the agenda he wouldn’t be heading anywhere near Downing Street. 

Winning, they say, is everything. You have to be in power to change things. But I fear this landslide will not be interpreted by its benefactors as a desire for the radical changes needed rather than as a polite blue light for a slightly more competent, hopefully less corrupt remix of the toxic shite we have now. Because, as I said just now, genuine change isn’t what the Sensible People are selling. If the Labour Party hated the Tories as much as they hate the left of their own party, we would all be better off already.

After the last five years maybe a bit of stability is needed. Some semblance of competence and normality. These should be the bare minimum requirements for any ruling party but the bar is now so low it qualifies as revolutionary. 

Here’s why I might dare to have hope. If Labour achieve the kind of majority people think they will then they will have done it without communicating any real idea of what Labour stand for. Which means that people really do want change. And a decade in power gives Labour the time to implement it. Maybe things can only get better. Maybe Starmer isn’t a ruthlessly ambitious individual with a vicious streak. Maybe speaking to The Sun yesterday, after telling the people of Liverpool he never would, is just another blip, a necessary bruise to be gained in the grubby ring of politics. But then again maybe he is just another liar after all. Knighted as he was for his part in the rush to give disaffected black youths disproportionate prison sentences for rioting and looting, reluctant as he was to back a ceasefire in Gaza, delighted as he is to still sit and slur thousands of former Labour supporters as anti-semitic, it cannot be said that Keir Rodney Starmer is an obvious thorn in the side of the establishment. But perhaps he's like one of those alien ships buried beneath civilisation in War of the Worlds, waiting for the right moment to reveal himself. 

We will wait and see. My reckoning is we will be told that we’re just going to have to “tighten our belts” further still. 

Which, roughly translated, means that those at the bottom of the pit, and that is around 15 million or so people living below the poverty line, won’t be getting a rope thrown down to save them any time soon. And because you don’t see poor people on the news* it isn’t going to matter. 

This is just an opinion. I’m an old man with vaguely left wing leanings. I may yet be pleasantly surprised by the outcome of a Starmer government. I will only be too pleased to admit I was wrong if so.

None of it matters really. The climate crisis is approaching at such a pace that we will all soon be gone anyway. The mainstream parties don’t care and the greens are practically a cult as far as the media are concerned. If a bunch of well meaning kids covering Stonehenge in cornflour irritates the media then screaming for the abolition of capitalism from the top of a burning Amazon warehouse probably won’t get much traction. We are, as Bambi's mum says, fucked.

I digress. 

I have nothing to gain from arguing with anyone. I still love you all. Vote as you see fit. But vote this current lot out. That rabble, that bloated choir of racists, rapists and absolute fucking bastards has to go.

Stick your X next to anyone but them or Reform.

I love you all.

PREDICTION (not including the 18 Northern Ireland seats) - Labour 425, Conservative 105, Lib Dem 74, SNP 18, Green 4, Plaid 4, Reform 4. 

PS I ain’t engaging. Life is too short. You won’t change my opinion. I won’t change yours. Comment if you want to, share if you must.

 

*unless they’ve done something terrible.

 

Wednesday 11 October 2023

Stronger

Wanted to write something about the 50 songs I chose in the previous blog post, just some observations on a song by song basis - won't do it for them all. Don't read on if you're dealing with some grief right now, as it's about loss and I hate to upset people.

STRONGER - Sugababes

(single, 2002, from album "Angels with Dirty Faces)

Oh fuck.

Pop music as emotional trigger.

Sugababes released a string of what the kids call absolute bangers at the start of the century, an all time John Cazale style run. If we do anything well in this country its pop music, and girl group pop music especially. And I could have picked “Freak Like Me”, “Round Round” (especially the Soulwax mix), "Overload" or even “Push the Button”.

But Stronger is the one for me, even if it does take me back some place I'd rather not go.

We had a kitten called Marvin. He came along with his sister Millie in the package labelled “New Girlfriend.” It was a good package, an instant family.

A few months later my stepdad died. 

A friend came to cat sit whilst we attended the funeral. Marvin, being a fucking lunatic, ran out of the door the moment the cat sitter arrived and got hit by a car. He survived but with a problem that wouldn’t get any better and we spent a fortune on vet’s bills before facing up to the vet's assertion we were just prolonging his agony. The day we took him on his final journey was grim, a fortnight before Christmas, the rain lashing down. And the vets is only round the corner so we walk and he’s meowing like mad, loudest he’s been in some time. And it’s not really my kitten, it’s my girlfriend’s, I tell myself, I'm going to be ok. I’m alright with this decision. It’s not fair to see him in so much pain. I’m going to be there for her, I’m carrying the cage because it’s heavy and it’s only a 5-minute walk but it takes forever and the vet sees us straight away.

Of course Marvin climbs out of the cage like he’s better, not fucked, not half crippled and yelping in pain continually. A ginger Lazarus. One last act of defiance. And I can feel myself going, the lip is wobbling, the eyes are misting up. The vet, she strokes him and then Marvin, the little prick, starts playing with a stethoscope round her neck like he’s back in good health, still got some play in him. And it’s that that fucking kills me. I can’t be there for this. I run out of the room, completely overcome, can’t be there and I’m properly uncontrollably and undignifiedly puke-crying in the street.

I want to get absolutely fucked on booze but I can’t and I don’t, I wait for my girlfriend and she comes out and I pull myself together and we walk home in the wet dark silence. Later that evening I’m making a cup of tea for us and the radio is on in the kitchen and Stronger comes on and it’s all too raw and literal and I’m shaking with grief and anger and it reminds me that I’m no good at this stuff. I can’t be strong around loss and pain. And this song becomes stuck in my head for the next few days. I buy the record, I play it repeatedly, it purges me of something but I feel guilty about the level of my anguish. I shouldn’t feel this much but I do.

Stronger is an anthem of defiance, a song that transports me instantly to those unbearable moments.  It's Unfinished Sympathy for the pop kids. And it’s Marvin’s song now. Even now, 21 years later, I’m back on that walk, the cage swinging in my left hand as he rocks it around, trying to make sense of his final minutes, the condemned man. And it’s a magnificent pop song that can do that thing where you say to yourself that you almost enjoy that misery, because it’s like another instrument playing at a frequency only you can hear. 

So probably shouldn't have had the song on this morning in the gym....


Monday 9 October 2023

50 best singles of the 21st century

Inspired by, but feeling too late to join in with, the hashtag #FearofMu21C on Twitter - thought I'd have a crack at picking my own selection of the best 50 singles of the 21st century so far. Research led me to realise belatedly that songs I thought were singles actually weren't, a symptom of the streaming era I guess. Can't tell you the last single I bought, going back a while. I think it might be a split single between Marissa Nadler and Father JOhn Misty where they each covered one of the other's songs. Neither track made this list, though the Nadler one is pretty cool. Decided to not include remixes as that seems like another sort of playlist, also I would end up having about 8 Soulwax ones...

So, here we go, in reverse order....

50th place - Let's Make Love And Listen to Death From Above - CSS. 

49 - Proserpina - Martha Wainwright

48 - I Need Some Fine Wine and You Need To Be Nicer - Cardigans

47 - 1 Thing - Amerie

46 - Hurt - Johnny Cash

45 - Johnny Cash - Sons and Daughters

44 - Wild Young Hearts - Noisettes

43 - Midnight Sun - Nilufer Yanya

42 - More Than A Woman - Aaliyah

41 - The Suburbs - Arcade Fire

40 - 1980 - Estelle

39 - You Let My Tyres Down - Tropical Fuck Storm

38 - Digital Love - Daft Punk

37 - Mistaken For Strangers - National

36 - A Private Understanding - Protomartyr

35 - There, There - Radiohead

34 - Ibithaj - Rapsody

33 - Panique - Juniore

32 - Reagan - Killer Mike

31 - Seventeen - Ladytron

30 - Losing My Edge - LCD Soundsystem

29 - Show Me - Mint Royale

28 - Feel It Still - Portugal, The Man

27 - Remember Me - Sea Power

26 - Fascination - Alphabeat

25 - Sunglasses - Black Country, New Road

24 - The Isle of Arran - Lloyd Carner

23 - Get Yr Freak On - Missy Elliot

22 - Mirrors - Justin Timberlake

21 - She Wants to Move - N*E*R*D

20 - 212 - Azalea Banks

19 - Do You Realise? - Flaming Lips

18 - Danger! High Voltage - Electric Six

17 - Human - Molly Sarle

16 - Dedicated to My Ex - Lloyd

15 - Straight to the Morning - Hot Chip feat Jarvis Cocker

14 - Laura - Scissor Sisters

13 - Not - Big Thief

12 - The Spoils - Massive Attack

11 - Since I Left You - Avalanches

10 - The Rat - The Walkmen

9 - Toxic - Britney Spears

8 - Maps - Yeah Yeah Yeahs

7 - Stronger - Sugababes

6 - Something Kinda Oooh - Girls Aloud

5 - Crazy in Love pt 1 - Beyonce

4 - Video Games - Lana Del Rey

3 - With Every Heartbeat - Robyn

2 - Maneater - Nelly Furtado

1 - Hey Ya - Outkast

Playlist here - complaints to the usual address....

Wednesday 27 September 2023

New short story - October

 

October

 

It was the last birthday card he ever bought for his wife.

He wasn’t to know it, wasn’t to know any of the things that could happen in the next twelve months. Who amongst us truly sees the future? The card had been selected against a number of criteria. Firstly, that it was not in any way sentimental. Secondly, that it did not feature the word “wife” in any way on the front of the card. Third, it did not feature teddy bears or kittens. Fourth, it looked like some actual decision had been made to choose this card and of course, finally, it had to come in at around the small amount of coins in his battered wallet.

There was a small amount of shame to be had in taking the plastic bag with the shop’s name to hold the card. But the card might get crumpled in the inside pocket of his jacket and those looked like rain clouds up ahead. The bag felt flimsy, cheap and reminded the man of his current economic status.

They had once been madly in love and got married without either of them really considering what it might take to shake the foundations of that madness. Within a year of the confetti each had cheated on the other without the other finding out. Things like that happen in life. A Christmas party, too much alcohol, a feeling of wanting to try something different, feeling dangerous. That was her story. His was another kind of boredom. An email from an ex. Then another. Then phone calls and lies. And a hotel room that he had let the ex pay for on her card, not his. There was no chivalry that day, how could there be. There was only a brief feeling of excitement, and no little shame after.

He was thinking of that afternoon now in the autumn wind. The bag in his hand blew weakly. The man imagined a scenario where he’d already written the birthday message and the words were being blown across the card, leaving streaks of biro and no words of congratulation or love in their inky wake.

I only met that man the one time. He was sat next to me on the red seat at the bus stop outside Boots. He didn’t share any of that stuff with me, I just made it all up for this story. He had only glanced at me for a second, nodded at the same thin bag in my hand from the same card shop as mine and smiled in a way that unsettled me. Not then, but much later.